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Creating Your New Story: Focusing on What You Can Control

Updated: Dec 12, 2023

We all have dreams, aspirations, and stories we want to create for ourselves.

Whether it's starting a new business, writing a novel, or embarking on a personal journey of growth, the desire to shape our own narrative is a fundamental part of being human.

However, too often we find ourselves caught up in things beyond our control, leading to frustration, disappointment, and even giving up on our dreams altogether.

In this blog post, I want to explore the importance of focusing on what we can control and how it empowers us to create our new story.

The Illusion of Control

Life is full of uncertainties, and it's easy to get overwhelmed by the vast array of external factors that seem to dictate our paths.

Especially with things that aren't even on the horizon yet.

We become preoccupied with things like the opinions of others, the economy, or circumstances beyond our reach.

While it's natural to consider these factors, fixating on them can become counterproductive and drain our energy.

Why focus on something that might not even happen because previous choices won't put you in that fearful situation?

The Circle of Control

To regain our power and unleash our creative potential, we must shift our focus to what lies within our "circle of control."

The circle of control encompasses aspects that are directly influenced by our thoughts, choices, and actions.

By identifying and prioritizing these areas, we take charge of our own narrative and open up possibilities for growth and success.

Personal Mindset

Our mindset plays a pivotal role in shaping our experiences.

While we can't control every event or outcome, we have the power to choose our perspectives and responses.

Embracing a positive and growth-oriented mindset allows us to adapt to challenges, learn from failures, and persist in the face of adversity.

Cultivating self-belief and a can-do attitude sets the foundation for creating our new story.

I have always told my son, "Everything is fixable-even if it is just changing your perspective of it".

Goal Setting and Action

Setting clear and achievable goals is within our control.

By defining our aspirations and breaking them down into manageable steps, we create a roadmap for progress.

We can choose to take consistent action toward our goals, adjusting our approach as necessary.

Proactive efforts bring us closer to our desired outcomes and propel us forward on our journey.

Remember, slow progress is still progress!

Personal Development

Investing in our personal growth and learning is a powerful way to shape our new story.

We have control over how we develop our skills, knowledge, and abilities.

Reading books, attending workshops, seeking mentorship, and expanding our horizons contribute to our personal development.

By continuously enhancing our capabilities, we create opportunities for success and create a stronger foundation for our future endeavors.

Relationships and Networks

The relationships we build and nurture have a profound impact on our story.

While we can't control other people's actions, we can choose to surround ourselves with supportive and like-minded individuals.

By fostering healthy connections and networks, we create a community that uplifts and inspires us.

Collaboration and shared experiences can amplify our creativity and propel us towards our goals.


Creating a new story requires a shift in focus from external circumstances to the aspects we can control.

By acknowledging the illusion of control over things beyond our reach, we free ourselves from unnecessary burdens and reclaim our power.

Embracing our circle of control allows us to harness our personal mindset, set meaningful goals, invest in personal growth, and cultivate supportive relationships.

By taking charge of these areas, we pave the way for the creation of our new story, empowering ourselves to shape our lives according to our dreams and aspirations.

So, let us choose wisely where we direct our energy and efforts.

Let us focus on the things within our control, and in doing so, let us unlock the limitless potential to create our own extraordinary stories.


If you're feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or out of control, it's time to reclaim your power by focusing on what you can control.

As a guide who has helped individuals navigate through similar challenges, I understand the frustration and uncertainty you may be experiencing.

But there is a way forward.

Together, we can explore the concept of the circle of control and identify the areas where you have the ability to make a meaningful impact.

Through personalized coaching sessions, I will support you in developing practical strategies and mindset shifts that will empower you to regain control and create the story you desire.

Don't let external circumstances dictate your happiness and fulfillment.

Take the first step toward transformation by booking a free coaching session with me today.

Together, we will unlock your potential, cultivate resilience, and equip you with the tools you need to thrive in every aspect of your life.

Embrace the power of your circle of control and embark on a journey of self-discovery and growth.

Your new story awaits – let's create it together.

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